The dad who gave birth: Being pregnant doesn’t change me being a trans man

Transitioning meant that Freddy McConnell finally felt comfortable in his skin. Then he began a quest to conceive and carry his own child Freddy McConnell takes out his phone and shows me a film of his baby snoring contentedly. Jack is gorgeous, with blond hair, blue eyes and heavy eyelids, and McConnell is the classic doting dad albeit more hands-on than most. Its a year since he gave birth to Jack, an experience he describes as life-changing. He has also made an intimate and moving film about that experience, from the decision to have a baby, through pregnancy and the delivery. Everything is documented in close-up, including Jacks arrival in a hospital birthing pool. You might expect McConnell to be …

Excellence is overrated. Lets embrace being good enough instead | Andr Spicer

Schools, bodies, workplaces, relationships this quest to be outstanding can be damaging, says academic Andr Spicer We live in a society obsessed with being exceptional. Whether it is as workers, parents, students, lovers or cooks, we are expected to be outstanding. We must strive to be the best employee, craft an outstanding body, have an amazing relationship, all while being exceptionally happy. Even the most ordinary institutions also are expected to be nothing less than excellent. Companies want to be world class, schools have become academies of excellence, and humble local GP surgeries strive to be outstanding. Being good enough is seen as simply not good enough. Our quest to be excellent has many positive consequences, but it also can …